Q & A – The Age of Accountability?

The Age of Accountability?

What happens to babies and young children when they die?  I know they haven’t had a chance to learn about Jesus or accept Him as their Savior. Can they still go to heaven?  What about the sin nature that everyone is born with?  I hear people refer to “the age of accountability.”  What does that mean, and what does it have to do with these issues?

Tony’s Response: This question obviously has several facets, and I believe each is important to address. Certain parts of this question are theological (sin nature, age of accountability, etc.). At the same time, nothing could be more personal to parents who have lost a child to death than the eternal destiny of that child. Any pastor who has ever stood with bereaved parents certainly understands how heart-wrenching that question is on a personal level.

Fortunately, the insights offered by Scripture not only serve to provide a theological understanding of this issue, but offer great peace and comfort as well.

The Lord Jesus said in Matthew 19:14, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these” (NIV). Jesus associated the innocence of children with what heaven is like, and He demonstrated a completely open heart and receptivity toward them.

Isaiah spoke of God’s wonderful, merciful nature (40:11, NIV) when he said, “He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.”

When David grieved the loss of his infant son in 2 Samuel 12:23, he expressed confidence in a future reunion with that child when he said, “But now he is dead; why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.”

The term “age of accountability” (or “age of responsibility”) refers to a time in a person’s life when they understand enough and become mature enough to be morally responsible for their own decisions and behavior. Because individuals mature differently, it is believed that this time – this age of accountability – is different for each person.

Paul referred to what happened in his own life relative to this in Romans 7:9: “I was alive once without the law, but when the commandment came, sin revived and I died.”

Paul appears to be speaking of a time in his life when he was “without the law.”  It would seem the only time that this would have applied was when he was an infant or a very young child. He wasn’t speaking about being alive physically, because he didn’t die physically when he came to the knowledge of the law. It is true that we are born with a sin nature, but it appears from Scripture that the full consequences of that fallen nature (and our subsequent corresponding actions) aren’t counted against us until we come to a certain level of knowledge relative to God’s standards.

Paul said in Romans 5:13, “For until the law sin was in the world, but sin is not imputed when there is no law.”

It’s not that the sin nature or the propensity toward sin are not present in an infant or a child; it’s simply that God has chosen not to let the consequences be fully realized when a person cannot know any better. There are many Scriptures that present the idea that judgment is, to a degree, meted out based on the knowledge of the person (Luke 12:47-48, James 4:17, John 9:41, John 15:22, etc.).

Some would take this idea and go too far. They would say, “So if knowledge is the issue, then everyone who has never heard the Gospel has no responsibility.”  Paul precluded and countered this argument in Romans 1-3 when he identified four levels of God revealing Himself to mankind (creation, conscience, law, and Christ). His point was that even those who have never heard the Gospel still have a responsibility to respond to the level of revelation which they do have available to them.

To me, the question is not whether children are born with a sin nature. Rather, the question is, “At what point does that child (or person) become accountable for that particular situation, along with the consequences for his or her own behavior?”  Scripture seems to associate that with acquiring a certain level of knowledge. Only God knows the age of accountability for each person.

In summary, I believe that we can safely and confidently trust a loving and merciful God with the care of the souls of infants and small children who die. Jesus’ attitude toward small children was one of complete acceptance. This is not to downplay the importance of an individual accepting God’s forgiveness personally when they are old enough to understand their need for such forgiveness.

In closing, let me quote from my book, Life After Death. “Although the death of a child—whether by miscarriage, stillbirth, or premature death—is difficult to comprehend with our human reasoning, the Holy Spirit offers comfort and strength to help us through our sorrow. And even though we may not understand everything, we can be confident in God’s mercy and compassion. The good news of God’s mercy is simply this: Jesus loved, embraced, and welcomed children to Himself when He was here on this earth, and Jesus is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8).”

Q & A – Is God OK with Cremation?

Is God OK with Cremation?

My parents are elderly, and my father is making some decisions regarding the future.  He wants to know if cremation is biblical and if it’s OK with God. Can you shed any light on this?

Tony’s Response:

Thank you for your e-mail, and I appreciate your question. My heart goes out to you regarding the challenges your parents are facing, and I commend your father for thinking through these difficult questions in advance.

More and more people seem to be looking to cremation as an alternative to burial these days. Newsweek reported (March 16, 2009[i]) that in the mid-60’s, less than 4% of funerals in America involved cremation. In 2008, though, cremation was involved in more than one-third of funerals. Some observers expect the cremation rate to hit 60% by 2025. Economics could certainly be driving much of this, as Newsweek also reported that the average cost of a “traditional” funeral is now nearly $10,000, while cremation is significantly less expensive.

There are some who have the conviction that burial is the only appropriate (God-approved) way to carry out the disposition of human remains. For others, burial is simply a preference. In either case, I would certainly want to respect and honor a person’s convictions and/or preferences. There are others, though, who do not hold to such a conviction or preference regarding burial. For them, cremation is a valid alternative.

Regarding burial vs. cremation… the Bible describes several instances of burial, but that was simply the custom of many of the people in biblical times. Most often, burial took place in a tomb, cave, or in the ground. Jesus was buried according to the custom of his time (John 19:40). The embalming process they used in that day was one that most scholars believe was learned in Egypt (it was an external embalming only).

Some have wondered if cremation will somehow thwart God’s plans for the resurrection. I remember learning many years ago in a science class that “matter cannot be destroyed; it can only change form.” For example, you can boil a pan of water until the pan is empty, but you didn’t actually destroy the water—it simply changed form. It became vapor.

Likewise (and pardon me – some of this is graphic), but whether a body is buried or cremated, the molecules that make up that body aren’t truly destroyed either way, and God will resurrect those remains when Jesus comes. The bodies of people who died thousands of years ago are now dust, but God will have no problem resurrecting those bodies. The bodies of those martyrs who were burned at the stake will be resurrected by God. The bodies of those lost at sea—whose bodies became food for countless fish—will be resurrected. Nothing is too difficult for God!

If folks are buried without embalming, the body undergoes relatively rapid decomposition. If embalming takes place, it slows down the decomposition process. If cremation takes place, the decomposition process is accelerated. Regardless, matter is not destroyed—it merely changes form—and the resurrection will take place either way.

It is my conviction that the decision of burial or cremation is a very personal choice, and I respect whatever a person decides. My father passed away in 2007, and he had chosen cremation. I personally don’t see any problem with that choice from a biblical perspective. However, every person needs to be convinced in his or her own heart, and act according to those convictions.

Most importantly, each of us should search the Scriptures to understand the nature of our bodies, as well as our eternal hope. Here are a few Scriptures that I believe help give us understanding.

Gen 3:19 19
In the sweat of your face you shall eat bread Till you return to the ground, For out of it you were taken; For dust you are, And to dust you shall return.

Ecclesiastes 12:7 7
Then the dust will return to the earth as it was, And the spirit will return to God who gave it.

1 Corinthians 15:42-55 42
So also is the resurrection of the dead. The body is sown in corruption, it is raised in incorruption. It is sown in dishonor, it is raised in glory. It is sown in weakness, it is raised in power. It is sown a natural body, it is raised a spiritual body. There is a natural body, and there is a spiritual body. And so it is written, “The first man Adam became a living being.” The last Adam became a life-giving spirit. However, the spiritual is not first, but the natural, and afterward the spiritual. The first man was of the earth, made of dust; the second Man is the Lord from heaven. As was the man of dust, so also are those who are made of dust; and as is the heavenly Man, so also are those who are heavenly. And as we have borne the image of the man of dust, we shall also bear the image of the heavenly Man. Now this I say, brethren, that flesh and blood cannot inherit the kingdom of God; nor does corruption inherit incorruption. Behold, I tell you a mystery: We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed—in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, and the dead will be raised incorruptible, and we shall be changed. For this corruptible must put on incorruption, and this mortal must put on immortality. So when this corruptible has put on incorruption, and this mortal has put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written: “Death is swallowed up in victory.” “O  Death, where is your sting? O Hades, where is your victory?”

 

[1]http://www.newsweek.com/id/188139/page/1

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