It seems that the only discipleship format out there that is working is the cell group. Is anyone doing anything different that is working? How are pastors plugging new believers into their churches and assuring that they are getting grounded in the Word and in fellowship?
Is pastoring different today than it was ten, fifteen, or twenty years ago? It seems like it is, but I’m trying to define how it’s different. Is society different? Are church members different? Are the expectations and commitment levels of people different? Can you help me understand this? Read the responses.
I recently returned a cash gift with a polite letter because it came in the same letter as a pastoral referral request for an application to a Christian school. It felt like a potential conflict of interest. I was happy to recommend the person and did so. What clear guidelines can you recommend for receiving or declining gifts/offerings in the future? Have you ever sent back or declined a gift/offering and under what terms?
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For some time, I’ve been feeling like our church is isolated from our community. I know that I’ve spent so much time focusing on the sheep that I haven’t gotten involved in the community as I should. What are some of the ways pastors connect to their communities personally, and how do they lead their churches in having great community impact?
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As a pastor who loves to encourage and nurture others, I find it difficult to confront people. Can you give me some do’s and don’ts and how-to’s (or how not-to)? When do you confront and when do you simply overlook something? Can you give me some advice on how to confront a staff member, a volunteer, or a church member about an issue? Also, are there some preventative, “up-front” types of things I can do so that I don’t feel a need to confront issues as often?
We have never had official “membership” in our church, but I’m thinking about initiating it. I’m curious as to what experiences other pastors have had with church membership. What are the pros and the cons? What requirements should we have for people to become members? What is taught in the membership classes and how extensive are they? What reasons are there for having or not having church membership?
As a pastor, I feel pretty good about most aspects of my responsibilities (spiritual, preaching, pastoral care, etc.), but I’m recognizing a deficiency in the business-side of ministry. I don’t have a business background, and I realize there’s a lot I need to know in those areas. I’d love to hear seasoned pastors share a few tips about the business lessons they’ve learned relative to their leadership in the church. Could you please share some “business sense” with me?
As a pastor, I preach and teach the Bible regularly, but I don’t always feel that I am connecting with the people. I observe other ministers who really seem to communicate and connect effectively with their audience. Can some experienced pastors share some thoughts with me about how to be a better communicator and how to really connect with my people? I know to “preach the Word” and to “be anointed,” but I guess I’m looking for other insights—maybe even natural things—on becoming a better public speaker.
We are looking for guidelines, resources, and training ideas to help make our workers more effective in helping those who have responded to altar calls. What procedures do other churches use to train their altar workers? What process do you take people through who respond to altar calls, and how do they do it? Are there any resources or outlines available for training altar care workers? What materials do you put into the hands of new converts, and how do you follow up on them? We want to see our altar care team better trained, better equipped, and more effective. What suggestions do other pastors have?
Planning is very important! Start with monthly planning sessions. Do this by first organizing a group that you would like to be involved in the planning process. Begin having meetings at least once a month in order to brainstorm and plan what the church’s basic needs and desires are. Your planning phase should last at least one year. … read more
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There was a time in my ministry as a pastor when I communicated to inquiring unchurched, non-Christian couples that I wasn’t interested in performing their weddings. I didn’t express it as harshly as it sounds, but that was clearly my attitude. My thinking was, If they can’t bother to come to church, then I can’t bother to cater to their desire to be married in the church, at least my church. … read more
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There are specific laws in the earth that we have to obey in order to live peaceably on this earth. In the same way, there are also laws in the spiritual realm that govern the Kingdom of God, and if these “Kingdom” laws are cooperated with properly, they will be a blessing to you. … read more
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Why don’t we see more miracles? That’s a question I hear frequently when I travel in the states. As ministers, there are five basic principles we need to understand if we’re going to cultivate spiritual operations in our churches and meetings. … read more
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What kind of money is it that, if you don’t pay it you are robbing someone and if you do pay it he will pour out a blessing on you? If you don’t steal someone’s car, are they going to pour out a blessing on you? No. They are not even going to thank you. We ordinarily do not bless people for not taking our things. But when the tithe is paid, God pours out a blessing. Why? … read more
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What kind of money is it that, if you don’t pay it you are robbing someone and if you do pay it he will pour out a blessing on you? If you don’t steal someone’s car, are they going to pour out a blessing on you? No. They are not even going to thank you. We ordinarily do not bless people for not taking our things. But when the tithe is paid, God pours out a blessing. Why? … read more
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We believe that our service as a worship team must be in line with the direction that God has given our pastors for Victory. Big vision coupled with believers working together to fulfill that vision results in changed lives. … read more
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About 35,000 people die by suicide each year—an average of 1 person every 15 minutes. Approximately 800,000 people attempt suicide a year, which translates to a rate of one attempt every 39 seconds. For every completed suicide, at least 6 survivors of suicide loss (loved ones, friends and family members) are affected. … read more
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When I think of ministry and the fivefold ministry gifts, the concept of honor immediately comes to mind. However, in our day and age, society seems to have lost the heart of honor. Sadly, even many of our churches have pushed honor to the wayside, treating ministers without reverence and respect. … read more
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Discipleship and Assimilation
/in Pastors' Forum /by Tony CookeIt seems that the only discipleship format out there that is working is the cell group. Is anyone doing anything different that is working? How are pastors plugging new believers into their churches and assuring that they are getting grounded in the Word and in fellowship?
A Different Time?
/in Pastors' Forum /by Tony CookeIs pastoring different today than it was ten, fifteen, or twenty years ago? It seems like it is, but I’m trying to define how it’s different. Is society different? Are church members different? Are the expectations and commitment levels of people different? Can you help me understand this? Read the responses.
Declining a Gift
/in Pastors' Forum /by Tony CookeI recently returned a cash gift with a polite letter because it came in the same letter as a pastoral referral request for an application to a Christian school. It felt like a potential conflict of interest. I was happy to recommend the person and did so. What clear guidelines can you recommend for receiving or declining gifts/offerings in the future? Have you ever sent back or declined a gift/offering and under what terms?
Curriculum
/in Pastors' Forum /by Tony CookeWe could really use some help in finding good curriculum for all age-levels and for small group ministry. Any ideas?
Connecting with the Community
/in Pastors' Forum /by Tony CookeFor some time, I’ve been feeling like our church is isolated from our community. I know that I’ve spent so much time focusing on the sheep that I haven’t gotten involved in the community as I should. What are some of the ways pastors connect to their communities personally, and how do they lead their churches in having great community impact?
Confrontation
/in Pastors' Forum /by Tony CookeAs a pastor who loves to encourage and nurture others, I find it difficult to confront people. Can you give me some do’s and don’ts and how-to’s (or how not-to)? When do you confront and when do you simply overlook something? Can you give me some advice on how to confront a staff member, a volunteer, or a church member about an issue? Also, are there some preventative, “up-front” types of things I can do so that I don’t feel a need to confront issues as often?
Church Membership
/in Pastors' Forum /by Tony CookeWe have never had official “membership” in our church, but I’m thinking about initiating it. I’m curious as to what experiences other pastors have had with church membership. What are the pros and the cons? What requirements should we have for people to become members? What is taught in the membership classes and how extensive are they? What reasons are there for having or not having church membership?
Business Sense
/in Pastors' Forum /by Tony CookeAs a pastor, I feel pretty good about most aspects of my responsibilities (spiritual, preaching, pastoral care, etc.), but I’m recognizing a deficiency in the business-side of ministry. I don’t have a business background, and I realize there’s a lot I need to know in those areas. I’d love to hear seasoned pastors share a few tips about the business lessons they’ve learned relative to their leadership in the church. Could you please share some “business sense” with me?
Better Communication Skills
/in Pastors' Forum /by Tony CookeAs a pastor, I preach and teach the Bible regularly, but I don’t always feel that I am connecting with the people. I observe other ministers who really seem to communicate and connect effectively with their audience. Can some experienced pastors share some thoughts with me about how to be a better communicator and how to really connect with my people? I know to “preach the Word” and to “be anointed,” but I guess I’m looking for other insights—maybe even natural things—on becoming a better public speaker.
Altar Care Ministry
/in Pastors' Forum /by Tony CookeWe are looking for guidelines, resources, and training ideas to help make our workers more effective in helping those who have responded to altar calls. What procedures do other churches use to train their altar workers? What process do you take people through who respond to altar calls, and how do they do it? Are there any resources or outlines available for training altar care workers? What materials do you put into the hands of new converts, and how do you follow up on them? We want to see our altar care team better trained, better equipped, and more effective. What suggestions do other pastors have?
10 Things Every Pastor Should Know Before They Build
/in Articles by Others /by Tony CookePlanning is very important! Start with monthly planning sessions. Do this by first organizing a group that you would like to be involved in the planning process. Begin having meetings at least once a month in order to brainstorm and plan what the church’s basic needs and desires are. Your planning phase should last at least one year. … read more
Six Tips on Performing Weddings for Unchurched, Non-Christian Couples by Dr. Aubrey Malphurs
/in Articles by Others /by Tony CookeThere was a time in my ministry as a pastor when I communicated to inquiring unchurched, non-Christian couples that I wasn’t interested in performing their weddings. I didn’t express it as harshly as it sounds, but that was clearly my attitude. My thinking was, If they can’t bother to come to church, then I can’t bother to cater to their desire to be married in the church, at least my church. … read more
The Law of Putting God First by Pastor Michael Cameneti
/in Articles by Others /by Tony CookeThere are specific laws in the earth that we have to obey in order to live peaceably on this earth. In the same way, there are also laws in the spiritual realm that govern the Kingdom of God, and if these “Kingdom” laws are cooperated with properly, they will be a blessing to you. … read more
Cultivating Spiritual Gifts in Your Church by Rick Renner
/in Articles by Others /by Tony CookeWhy don’t we see more miracles? That’s a question I hear frequently when I travel in the states. As ministers, there are five basic principles we need to understand if we’re going to cultivate spiritual operations in our churches and meetings. … read more
An Analysis of the Tithe (Part One) by James J. Purcell
/in Articles by Others /by Tony CookeWhat kind of money is it that, if you don’t pay it you are robbing someone and if you do pay it he will pour out a blessing on you? If you don’t steal someone’s car, are they going to pour out a blessing on you? No. They are not even going to thank you. We ordinarily do not bless people for not taking our things. But when the tithe is paid, God pours out a blessing. Why? … read more
An Analysis of the Tithe (Part Two) by James J. Purcell
/in Articles by Others /by Tony CookeWhat kind of money is it that, if you don’t pay it you are robbing someone and if you do pay it he will pour out a blessing on you? If you don’t steal someone’s car, are they going to pour out a blessing on you? No. They are not even going to thank you. We ordinarily do not bless people for not taking our things. But when the tithe is paid, God pours out a blessing. Why? … read more
Worship Team Guidelines from Victory Family Church by Pastor John Nuzzo
/in Articles by Others /by Tony CookeWe believe that our service as a worship team must be in line with the direction that God has given our pastors for Victory. Big vision coupled with believers working together to fulfill that vision results in changed lives. … read more
The Role of Faith Communities in Suicide Prevention by Dr. Timothy Doty
/in Articles by Others /by Tony CookeAbout 35,000 people die by suicide each year—an average of 1 person every 15 minutes. Approximately 800,000 people attempt suicide a year, which translates to a rate of one attempt every 39 seconds. For every completed suicide, at least 6 survivors of suicide loss (loved ones, friends and family members) are affected. … read more
Etiquette for Guest Ministers: How to Honor the Pastor in His Church
/in Articles by Tony Cooke /by Tony CookeEtiquette for Guest Ministers: How to Honor the Pastor in His Church PDF article by Tony Cooke Etiquette for Guest Ministers
Etiquette for Pastors: How to Honor Guest Ministers in Your Church
/in Articles by Others /by Tony CookeWhen I think of ministry and the fivefold ministry gifts, the concept of honor immediately comes to mind. However, in our day and age, society seems to have lost the heart of honor. Sadly, even many of our churches have pushed honor to the wayside, treating ministers without reverence and respect. … read more